As children grow up, they need to become more responsible for their actions and decisions. Simple decisions like what to buy at a supermarket, what to wear for a party or which friends to hang around with are decisions children should make at the age of 10 years. Once children turn 13, specialists recommend that parents allow their child to make certain decisions entirely on their own so that they can learn how to make good choices and handle the outcomes of badly-made decisions.
Empowering children to make decisions inculcates the habit of thinking and analysing for oneself. If parents don't let their children make their own decisions when they are young, children will never be able to make decisions later in life.
Children who make their own decisions in their early teens not only learn how to make good choices, but also learn to deal with the consequences of bad choices. This ability takes them a long way as they learn to handle the stress that comes with having made bad decisions. It also teaches them to stay away from denial, guilt and the blame game that often arise from having made the wrong decision.
Allowing teens to make their own choices also helps parents develop trust in their children. When children feel trusted, it leads to a healthy relationship between children and parents. Experts believe that parents should give their children the liberty to make smaller decisions by age 13 and important decisions by age 15. Parents should completely stop taking decisions for their children by the time they turn 21. Of course, advice and experience should always be shared, but by age 21, individuals should have the final word.
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